Social Values

                Buddhist teachings are at the root of the typical Thai villager’s sincere consideration for others, embodied in the virtue known as namchai, “water of the heart,” a concept encompassing spontaneous warmth and compassion that allow families to make anonymous sacrifices for friends and to extend hospitality to strangers. For example, a stranger visiting a village will rarely be seen as an intruder and subject for suspicion and distrust. Much more likely, the villagers will have the namchai to take him in feed him, offer him a bed in one of their homes, and generally treat him as a friend. Buddhism also lies behind such common expressions as mai pen rai (or “never mind, it doesn’t matter”) when something unfortunate happens, reflecting the feeling that one must gracefully submit to external forces beyond one’s control, such as the effects of past karma.

                Although highly individualistic and resisting regimentation, Thais nevertheless realize that inner freedom is best preserved in an emotionally and physically stable environment. Therefore, they believe that social harmony is best maintained by avoiding any unnecessary friction in their contacts with others. From this has grown the strong Thai feeling of kreng-chai, which means an extreme reluctance to impose on anyone or disturb his personal equilibrium by direct criticism, challenge, or confrontation. In general, people will do their utmost to avoid personal conflict.

                Outward expressions of anger are also regarded as dangerous to social harmony and as being obvious signs of ignorance, crudity, and immaturity. Indeed, during normal social intercourse, strong public.

                Within such a behavioral, framework, Thais share very definite views on what constitutes friendship and enjoyment. Sincere friendship among Thais is extremely intense; the language is rich in expressions which reflect the degree of involvement and willing self-sacrifice. Such relationships are found particularly among men. A “phuan tai”-literally, “death friend” –is a companion for whom it would be an honor to die. Should a friend become involved in difficulties, his friend feels an obligation to help him. Regardless of the danger to himself. Because “tong chuai phuan” “One must help one’s friends.” This requirement is a sensitive point of  honor and explains many circumstance that often baffle outsiders.

                Displays of dismay, despair, displeasure, disapproval, or enthusiasm are frowned upon. Accordingly, the person who is. Or appears to be, serenely indifferent (choei choei) is respected for having what is considered an important virtue.

                On the level of acquaintanceship, politeness predominates. When greeting people, Thais will usually show their concern for others’ health by remarking how “thin” or “fat” he or she has become. The remark is intended as a gesture of friendship.